Toxic People-People can’t hurt you unless you approved

People can’t hurt you unless you approved

I started dressing how I would like rather than thinking of how I can influence others through fashion.

I started openly speaking my sentiments stupidly of the results that they might bring. I used to be very open with myself to others because I didn’t know anything about caring, how others would react.

Yes, people will sometimes hurt us, and yes, people will occasionally do wicked things. But, within the end, we’ve to urge over this.

We want to manoeuvre on from continuously defeat our wounds so we will heal them and begin living fully again.People who bring you down are out to put you down, so they look greater. 

These are a characteristic which I learned. Maybe someone in their life exhausted them down so much that the only way they can feel like they are winning is to make others feel worse than they do.

These need to make themselves feel like they’re in control or more powerful or to cover up their insecurities. Or pulling people down for them is a resistance mechanism because they don’t know how to deal with a past disturbance they experienced.


Since we often look for the validation of others, we can be defenceless against the individuals who matter most to us. Since we need acknowledgment, incorporation, endorsement and love, and in the event that it isn’t impending – or if rather we get analysis, dissatisfaction, judgment, or outrage – in addition to the fact that we feel collapsed and hurt, however we may unconsciously move a few or the entirety of that pessimism – unto our self.


In the event that you permit others to influence how you think and feel; at that point your joy and prosperity gets controlled by circumstances and individuals outer to you and not what is in your heart – and generally imperative to you.


The words and activities of others will consistently have some effect on us however they are not liable for nor can they actually be our wellspring of joy. You are liable for how you feel and you are equipped for changing how you feel each time you move away from your natural condition of satisfaction.


We should know that we’re not going to change them.But we will learn to react to them in ways in which we defend our self-esteem also as our rationality.

An individual can’t hurt you unless you allow them to. You don’t believe yourself now, because you were born into a world determined to form you are doing things that you don’t want to try to .

Things you couldn’t be trusted to try without being coerced.

If you trust yourself to stay in a pattern, you feel confident in your capability to urge through tough times.You recognize that, although you get the sensation of quitting, you’ll beat it. Or if you fail, you realize you’ll start again, revisit up and absorb from the error and check out harder.

We have all had toxic people dust us with their poison. Once in a while it’s more similar to a drenching.Problematic people are strained to the rational ones and we all have likely had (or have) in any event one individual in our lives who make them twist around ourselves like security fencing in unlimited endeavours to satisfy them – just to never truly arrive.

Their harm lies in their delicacy and the manner in which they can incite that exemplary reaction, ‘It’s not them, it’s me.’ They can make them question your ‘over-responsiveness’, your ‘oversensitivity’, your ‘propensity to misconstrue’. In case you’re the person who’s ceaselessly harmed, or the person who is continually changing your own conduct to try not to be harmed, then chances are that it’s not you and it’s very much them.

 There are sufficiently of things toxic people do to manipulate people and situations to their advantage. Significant them will help you to escape falling under the influence:

  • They’ll keep you speculating about which rendition of them you’re getting.
  • They’ll control.
  • They won’t possess their emotions.
  • They’ll cause you to substantiate yourself to them.
  • They never apologize.
  • They’ll be there in an emergency yet they’ll never at any point share your happiness.
  • They’ll leave a discussion incomplete – and afterward they’ll go disconnected.
  • They’ll utilize non-harmful words with a poisonous tone.
  • They’ll bring immaterial detail into a discussion.
  • They’ll make it about the manner in which you’re talking, as opposed to what you’re discussing.
  • They misrepresent.
  • They are judgemental.

30 thoughts on “Toxic People-People can’t hurt you unless you approved

  1. There are always positive and negative energy around us. We shouldn’t allow the negativity to make us gloomy. It’s better to avoid those toxic people who always keep buzzing. They always judge others and forget to see their own deeds. Their existence in our life is like a pinch of salt.

  2. I think this is so important to remember. Toxic people can only hurt you if you let them. If you let them stay in your life or you continue to expose yourself to them, that’s when they inflict damage.

  3. Understanding what a toxic person looks like can help us keep them out of our lives. The only way they can hurt us is if we allow them in or allow them to stay. Great post.

  4. People I learned to free myself from after they totally and completely intoxicated my life, soul and mind!

  5. The nursery rhyme comes to mind, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Although that is easier to say, than to actually mean. But I totally agree people can’t hurt us unless we let them.

  6. I have an ex-friend who is extremely toxic, but she’s so good at hiding it behind a super sweet exterior. You only really realize she’s toxic when you dare disagree with her.

  7. People can’t hurt you unless you let them! That is so true. I often say “I can’t make you feel.”
    It is hard to have all the walls up though.

  8. i fully agree with this article, it took me a while to “Marie Kondo” my life – removing things and people from my life that did not sparkjoy

  9. You have some great points, and I wish that I would have been able to get this advice as a teenager, which is when I would have needed it the most!

  10. I have read in numerous places that one should stay away from toxic people but no one defines the traits of toxic people so i’m glad you have defined them. Toxic behaviours are also easy to recognise now! Thanks for sharing!

  11. I loved reading this! The last couple months I’ve been dealing with toxic people that really tested my emotions. It’s hard especially since those toxic people are family. This post really helped me!

  12. My best friend gave me such a hard time. I thought he was right because he used to forced me to think like that way.I can totally related with your article. Thanks for sharing.

  13. Oh I had faced a toxic person in my life. At first I used to cooperate and then I understood and got rid of the person. Life has become so smooth now. You did good by writing about this topic, very important one

  14. this is a great topic. it’s hard for it to not get to you though. i was in a marriage with a toxic guy. i finally wised up.

  15. Hehe…true true! We only let them in spaces where we can “tolerate” them. Otherwise, peace and love, always!

  16. I know someone like that who is dating someone I love. It is sad to watch and I wish people would run at the red flags before they get too entrenched.

  17. I agree with you. My mom has always told me that no one can make you inferior without your consent and this very similar to how toxic people treat others.

  18. A few months back I was in a toxic and manipulative relationship that i searched for youtube videos to know the signs of toxic people. Your post is spot on although its really difficult to not be affected sometimes. but recognizing masked toxicity is a first step. seriously enjoyed this read.

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